The Girls I Loved in Uni (Part #2)

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Ebun

Oct 19, 2024

My first attempt at love in the university didn’t go as planned and I ended up embarassing myself.

But with this new girl came a chance for me to do better.

And better is exactly what I didn’t do.

She first caught my attention when we were both in the choir and this was in the second semester of my first year.

At the start of my second year, I worked up the courage to talk to her and I realised that this wasn’t going to be just a simple “crush”.

So when we started talking, I immediately made it clear that I had feelings for her and I had no intentions for us to just be friends.

I wasn’t taking any chances.

At first, her vibe was very cautious, but after a while, we finally hit it off.

This was towards the end of the year and we were on holiday, so for about three straight weeks, we were texting non-stop.

And I mean long conversations past midnight, voicenotes replying to voicenotes, lots and lots of laughing emojis and never running out of things to talk about.

I even made her a playlist and she sent me one with some of her favourite songs.

Everything was going so well.

I. Finally. Won.

When we got back to school in January, my plan was simple - double my efforts and then officially make her mine.

I had laid the foundation during the holiday and now it was time for me to build on it.

Nothing could possibly go wrong.

Except everything did go wrong, terribly wrong, and it was down to two simple reasons.

One, I became too overbearing for her. Like I was doing too much.

In my defense, I was just doing the things any guy does when they like a girl, but the disconnect was simply because she just didn’t feel the same way I did.

Or maybe she didn’t feel it as much as I did.

So no amount of “pressure” I applied was going to change anything.

~~(Question - Am I the only one that experienced having a crazy connection with someone during the holiday, only for school to resume and for everything to die down?)~~

The second reason was that there was another guy already in the picture.

Again.

To be fair, she had told me during the holiday that they were just “friends”, but it didn’t stop me from boiling in rage (~~jealousy~~) whenever I saw them together.

And it inevitably started to affect our friendship.

I was crossing boundaries with my “efforts” and my “questions” and she just wasn’t having it anymore.

Eventually, she stopped replying my texts and her entire demenour towards me changed.

I had no idea what I had done wrong, but I knew that it was over.

There was nothing else for me to do than to hold my latest L and move on and suprisingly, I was actually doing really well.

I stopped going out of my way to see her, stopped checking up on her regularly and when I saw her on the road, I’d ignore her and pretend she wasn’t there.

I was on my Alpha male shit.

This went on for about a month or two and I thought that chapter had close.

But after the semester ended, some of us stayed back in school and then I saw her again.

She was as beautiful as ever. And when we made eye contact all my resolve melted.

I just had to text her.

Her response was colder than Chelsea’s number 20.

I tried to get her to talk about what happened and why we fell out.

I even used the “so you were fine with us never talking again” approach but she saw STRAIGHT through it.

All her responses were defensive and all her questions were laced with suspicion.

Then, a few days later around like 2am, she sent me a series of texts explaining why she was upset with me and omo…

Trust me, there was more.

I tried to explain myself but…

“Okay” ke? After all my shalaye?

After that day, there was nothing more to be said really.

I also found out around that time that her and the “just friends” guy were actually together. And had been for a while.

Another attempt. Another failure. Another lesson learnt.

It is what it is.

But you know me, never down for too long.

There was another girl that had been on my radar since the first semester and, my God, she was everything I’d ever wanted.

She was the PINNACLE and I was ready to go again.

This time, failure wasn’t an option.

I really hope I can do the 3rd and 4th part of this series because, writing these stories has made me appreciate how important “losses” are for growth.

So many things I would have never known if I hadn’t done certain things and made certain mistakes.

Embrace your Ls, so long as you learn and you never repeat them.

Read Part #1 below if you haven’t already.

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