That part you still had to send a msg on her birthday shows maturity most times I feel its not bad to wish people on their birthdays even when u are both angry with each other….just recently I felt I should do that but seeing this made me change my mind I will still send that bday message even though you hurt me.
I had someone in mind while reading this, we used to be so close and we opened up to eachother. Just like you and your friend, everyone thought we were more than just friends, including our moms but we were truly just friends. This person hurt me soooooo much and so many times, the last one broke the camel’s back and I decided to stay away from them. I’ve also hurt them too just like your friend here. I wish they could take accountability like this and offer a heartfelt apology but I doubt they will. I’m healing ❤️🩹 and it gets better everyday.😊
Beautiful writeup, God bless your heart for your self awareness. I hope you and your friend do well in your individual lives.💕💕
Resentment is a silent killer, Sometimes we know it's there but we don't just want to deal with it. I am dealing with something similar, I wish I could say I've figured it out but I'm trying to.
i know everything in life is worth fighting for until it’s not & you both got the closure you needed. thank you for sharing with us it really gave me a deeper insight on what i’ve been through with a friend.
Over time, I've realized that allowing resentment build up out of pride and ego soils a lot of things. Once resentment enters, one wouldn't know that they've become a beast.
I missed my friends wedding because I was drunk. He never spoke to me again. We once saw each other but it was not like the old times.
Dude was my bestie and I messed up. I think about him a lot. The girl he is married to is someone he swiped right on. I was there every step of the way but in the end I messed it up. I miss him. He deserved better.
Excuse me for prying but I need to know, was there anything that might’ve steered away from a normal platonic relationship? Any romantic undertones? Any physical relationship?
Maybe. I believe it’s a piece of the puzzle, the rate limiting step. It determines the dynamic later on. This is all conjecture but I believe both of you may have developed a different class of expectations which were not sustainable in a true platonic friendship. Hence the room for jealousy and resentment to flourish.
I miss my friend so much but honestly, I don't know what went wrong or when exactly it did.
Maybe it's the distance. Maybe our lives just got busy. Maybe both. I might never know and maybe she won't either.
But I still genuinely love her and wish her the best.
Some days, I want to ask how she's doing, to tell her what's going on with me, to know what she's up to, how life's treating her, or even tell her what someone said about something. But she's not there, and I'm not either.
I didn't even wish her a happy birthday. Guilt ate me up, but I still didn't text her.
Maybe a part of me wanted this, but I refuse to admit it.
And I hate to ask what happened. I've dreaded it for so long. Even when I felt hurt by what she said or did, I acted like I was okay. I never tried to talk about it.
But moving on is so hard.
I hope she's doing okay though, and that she's enjoying every bit of her life.🥹
I'm glad you both got closure and I wish you the best. ❤️
What a read, Ebun! So raw and honest. Thank you for sharing a part of you. Sending love and light your way
Thank you for reading
Ebun, I promise I'm not even crying🥺😭…
I know, I know…
That part you still had to send a msg on her birthday shows maturity most times I feel its not bad to wish people on their birthdays even when u are both angry with each other….just recently I felt I should do that but seeing this made me change my mind I will still send that bday message even though you hurt me.
You should, I agree
I had someone in mind while reading this, we used to be so close and we opened up to eachother. Just like you and your friend, everyone thought we were more than just friends, including our moms but we were truly just friends. This person hurt me soooooo much and so many times, the last one broke the camel’s back and I decided to stay away from them. I’ve also hurt them too just like your friend here. I wish they could take accountability like this and offer a heartfelt apology but I doubt they will. I’m healing ❤️🩹 and it gets better everyday.😊
Beautiful writeup, God bless your heart for your self awareness. I hope you and your friend do well in your individual lives.💕💕
Amen. Thank you❤️
Take this as the apology you deserve and I wish you all the best.
Wow
One thing I’ll say is I’m proud of you for the accountability👏🏽❤️
Thank you
Sad, yet beautiful; real.
Thank you for sharing❤️🩹
Thank you for reading
Wow! Just wow!
I might have dropped a tear or two.
We all fall short, but what's important is learning the lessons and making the important U-turns.
You write to beautifully, Ebun.
Thank you🙏
Turning is the most important part.
Hopefully it’s not always too late.
Hopefully 🤞🏾
This...
Resentment is a silent killer, Sometimes we know it's there but we don't just want to deal with it. I am dealing with something similar, I wish I could say I've figured it out but I'm trying to.
This work is beautiful ❤️
I wish you the best in figuring it all out.
Thank you❤️
Thank you!!
i know everything in life is worth fighting for until it’s not & you both got the closure you needed. thank you for sharing with us it really gave me a deeper insight on what i’ve been through with a friend.
glad to be of help
This is... sensational.
Jeez. I could feel the emotions. 💔
❤️
Over time, I've realized that allowing resentment build up out of pride and ego soils a lot of things. Once resentment enters, one wouldn't know that they've become a beast.
true that
Thank you for this raw peice Ebun❤️.
I'll take care not to hurt people I love now so I don't loose them.
Yeah, definitely do that
I read this like a book I had to do a summary on.
I missed my friends wedding because I was drunk. He never spoke to me again. We once saw each other but it was not like the old times.
Dude was my bestie and I messed up. I think about him a lot. The girl he is married to is someone he swiped right on. I was there every step of the way but in the end I messed it up. I miss him. He deserved better.
It’s tough carrying that regret every day
In the end we have to sit and live with the consequences of our actions
Friendship breakups really suck
I agree
Excuse me for prying but I need to know, was there anything that might’ve steered away from a normal platonic relationship? Any romantic undertones? Any physical relationship?
hmm, why do you ask tho?
Just curious tbh
hmm well, there was a little bit of both for a very short time. we decided to stay as friends.
wouldn’t blame it for why things turned sour tho, I just wasn’t a good friend in the end.
Maybe. I believe it’s a piece of the puzzle, the rate limiting step. It determines the dynamic later on. This is all conjecture but I believe both of you may have developed a different class of expectations which were not sustainable in a true platonic friendship. Hence the room for jealousy and resentment to flourish.
I agree with you completely
This is deep and so relatable. 🥹
I miss my friend so much but honestly, I don't know what went wrong or when exactly it did.
Maybe it's the distance. Maybe our lives just got busy. Maybe both. I might never know and maybe she won't either.
But I still genuinely love her and wish her the best.
Some days, I want to ask how she's doing, to tell her what's going on with me, to know what she's up to, how life's treating her, or even tell her what someone said about something. But she's not there, and I'm not either.
I didn't even wish her a happy birthday. Guilt ate me up, but I still didn't text her.
Maybe a part of me wanted this, but I refuse to admit it.
And I hate to ask what happened. I've dreaded it for so long. Even when I felt hurt by what she said or did, I acted like I was okay. I never tried to talk about it.
But moving on is so hard.
I hope she's doing okay though, and that she's enjoying every bit of her life.🥹
I'm glad you both got closure and I wish you the best. ❤️
I wish you all the best too.
I’d encourage you to reach out to her, life is too short to be leaving things in the air.
You’ll never know what could come next, and you don’t want “I should’ve just talked to her when I had the chance” hanging on your conscience forever.