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Offkey's avatar

Learning to serve and not just take.

While still actively participating

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Ebun's avatar

💯

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Abdulmalik ^⁠_⁠^'s avatar

We need to be stronger and better as men, the world needs it 💪.

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W. Lorenzo Cromwell's avatar

If only we had greater memories and could retain and use the instruction that we have received in the past and then go on to bigger and greater things.

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Ebun's avatar

World would be a better place for all of us

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an_imaginative_thing's avatar

This is a great write up, very well articulated. It’s refreshing to see conversations around masculinity being led by men themselves, in a way that focuses on responsibility and morality. Usually it's criticisms about toxic masculinity by women that I see, without hearing what men have to say about what it is to be a good man or a strong man, like offering a view of strength that comes without diminishing others or putting other people down, you know? Also, it's nice seeing men's mental health awareness month also being actually brought to awareness. Looking forward to the next posts in the series.

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Ebun's avatar

Thank you very much

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Sulaiman Modinat Omotayo's avatar

This is a crucial point, well-expressed. More men need to understand and acknowledge this.

I hope you don't mind me quoting you.

You wrote in this article and I quote

"What’s even more alarming is that many younger men, the ones who (according to the cycle) are meant to bring about good times, are now starting to tread this same path as the generation of weak men that came before them."

Why are younger men the ones who are meant to bring about the good times?

Why?

These younger men grew up in the same cycle and they can only bring the good times if they recognize the cycle as toxic, undergo self reflection, and heal in a supportive environment. Trying to heal in the same environment they grew up in is like pouring water into a basket, and it may lead to them being labelled as rebels.

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Ebun's avatar

Younger men will eventually become older men.

And then the cycle continues.

The point is calling us to recognise that we can’t follow in the same pattern and expect different results.

Since we’re in hard times, strong men have to rise up and take charge, so as they become older, the trend starts to shift, and that will set a better example for the even younger ones that will one day grow older.

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Munachimsoᥫ᭡'s avatar

The fact that there's an unfinished article titled: “we need to start minting men again” sitting in my drafts. I don't know when I'm going to be done with it because the weight of the topic deserves more than a rush take... also it may be very lenghty.

Nonetheless, this is an important piece...and well articulated too❤️.

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Ebun's avatar

Thank you

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thepeoplevsAD.'s avatar

personally I think killing them all might still work sha🤔😂

But jokes aside, the world really does need strong men, men of character.

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Ebun's avatar

And a lot of them

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