I am fully in agreement— this book and the cultural obsession with the idea of the existence of love languages is just plain dumb, and there is no point in sugarcoating it. My therapist told me that she uses it in therapy with some couples (the ones where both partners grew up in chaos and neglect and have few healthy relational skills to speak of) in order to socialize them to the shocking fact that the person they’re in a relationship with has needs and that it is nice to listen and act on what you hear. That this book which brings to us the lowest possible bar of “what is a human?” became a cultural sensation is depressing and a little embarrassing
I personally feel that love languages are to a relationship what the five senses are to the body. They all need to co-exist. In my head someone noticed the traits of people who are in love and called them love languages. Not to identify your strengths in a relationship but to identify the language or traits that a person in love has. But that’s just me I guess 🤷🏽♀️
I love how you explain every points and your perspective is reational, but there's also a reason why they making an excuse for the term of "love language", its for people who need their comfort space, it doesnt withdraw with your feelings, its for certain things that needs to be respected for each other in relationship for become healthy
For the physical touch one i have to say that a few years back, it felt uncomfortable to even just hug my siblings or have them touch me or hold my hand. They made it a game everyday that the person who was able to hold my hand the longest without me noticing and chasing them away wins. It has gotten better with time but i does take time to let people into my space, it took time for me to let the person i was in a relationship with at the time to hold my hand or hug me. It felt weird but i soon became the one that wanted it more 😅
I wouldn’t say it is stupid. People just love to put a name onto something whether or not it is necessary. And if it gives them a sense of satisfaction or meaning, then we should let them.
Love ,in most cases is something some have to experience, fail even , before they finally know How to express love or even know how they want to be loved. Aaah. Hmmm!
Reading this ,and seeing things from another perspective, be like say na me be problem oo🥲
I never connected to the idea of love languages, now I know I’m not the only one.
You’re not
I am fully in agreement— this book and the cultural obsession with the idea of the existence of love languages is just plain dumb, and there is no point in sugarcoating it. My therapist told me that she uses it in therapy with some couples (the ones where both partners grew up in chaos and neglect and have few healthy relational skills to speak of) in order to socialize them to the shocking fact that the person they’re in a relationship with has needs and that it is nice to listen and act on what you hear. That this book which brings to us the lowest possible bar of “what is a human?” became a cultural sensation is depressing and a little embarrassing
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I've been saying for time, glad it's been put into words!!!!
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I personally feel that love languages are to a relationship what the five senses are to the body. They all need to co-exist. In my head someone noticed the traits of people who are in love and called them love languages. Not to identify your strengths in a relationship but to identify the language or traits that a person in love has. But that’s just me I guess 🤷🏽♀️
Yeah, that’s my entire point
I don't know if this was meant to be funny, but it has made me cackle. I love it!
Glad to hear it
I love how you explain every points and your perspective is reational, but there's also a reason why they making an excuse for the term of "love language", its for people who need their comfort space, it doesnt withdraw with your feelings, its for certain things that needs to be respected for each other in relationship for become healthy
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this got a proper 'LOL' out of me, thanks!
Omg this is so real 😂
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For the physical touch one i have to say that a few years back, it felt uncomfortable to even just hug my siblings or have them touch me or hold my hand. They made it a game everyday that the person who was able to hold my hand the longest without me noticing and chasing them away wins. It has gotten better with time but i does take time to let people into my space, it took time for me to let the person i was in a relationship with at the time to hold my hand or hug me. It felt weird but i soon became the one that wanted it more 😅
I enjoyed this piece till the end so engaging😂😂! Might adopt this style🌚
Feel free to!
I wouldn’t say it is stupid. People just love to put a name onto something whether or not it is necessary. And if it gives them a sense of satisfaction or meaning, then we should let them.
That’s why I said the “idea” of it is stupid. Not the intentions.
I enjoyed reading this piece.
Love ,in most cases is something some have to experience, fail even , before they finally know How to express love or even know how they want to be loved. Aaah. Hmmm!
Reading this ,and seeing things from another perspective, be like say na me be problem oo🥲
😂😂I like the humor
Bruhh from the beginning 😂😂
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